MY UNIQUE SIGNATURE IN APPROACHING MY CLIENTS
Each day, I strive to provide quality care with grace and professionalism. I believe this begins by creating and maintaining an inviting and intriguing spirit in my practice. I consider 3 key elements as the main pillars to keeping up a positive and vital approach for my clients; my presence and well-being, the physical surroundings of my office space, and an overarching hope I hold in my mind for each and every client.
PRESENCE - CREATING A SUPPORTIVE PARTNERSHIP
I believe presence is everything when wanting to create a supportive partnership with my clients. To create that kind of a relationship, I actively engage in your therapy process when sitting directly across from you by remaining; curious, gently inquisitive, warm, patient, centered, calm, empathic, open, encouraging, and thoughtful.
Hopefully, this creates a space of freedom for my clients whereby they feel easily and naturally compelled to say whatever needs to be said in the manner that feels right. There is a sense that they can let their guard down without fear of judgment of any kind.
The physical presentation of the space in my practice is intended to invite a feeling of comfort, safety, security and tranquility. I like to imagine my office as a place you enter into while stepping temporarily out from the world outside as you know and experience it. You press the pause button for a brief 50 minutes and enter into a place where you put all of your thoughts, feelings and experiences out onto the table and sit with them openly, honestly and courageously knowing all the while that no one in your life knows exactly what you are talking about and considering for yourself.
To support your process, I place artwork throughout the room that invites and sets the tone for deeper pondering and reflection of yourself and your process. In other instances, consider the artwork as simply a mark of beauty. Surrounding yourself with beauty is one very good way of self-care while you bravely take the steps to revisit old painful memories and feelings that are getting explored and worked through in the therapeutic space. Either way you look at it; the creation of a beautiful therapeutic space is my way of creating a safe place for careful exploration, thoughtful processing, quiet reflection, and gentle pondering to occur.
THE OVERARCHING HOPE FOR MY CLIENTS
While working through the nitty gritty pain of it all, it may feel at times as if it is never going to change. Yet, while I sit with my clients every time, I hold hope for attaining the best possible outcome in their lives. This mindset, I believe, also sets the tone for the feeling and sense you may pick up from myself as a therapist working with you. I hope for the following for everyone I work with as they work through and reach a place of rest and peace with their issues;
Living your best life,
Discovering your true potential,
Becoming comfortable to fully be yourself
Feeling freed up from what originally weighed you down for years or maybe a lifetime.
What is important to understand about my approach – does this work for you?
When entering into psychotherapy in my practice, it is important to note the following expectations I hold about therapy so that you can decide for yourself if this works for you
Significant change requires time and effort
The process goes beyond the intellectual and must involve an experience of getting in touch with your emotions. For example, if you are working on forgiving someone who’s really hurt you, it’s not just about understanding the definition of forgiveness and engaging in an intellectual discussion about this. Really working through forgiving someone involves truly feeling all that comes with the experience of being hurt. Change will eventually occur as you learn to sit with them in new ways while we discuss together what new tools you can use to tolerate such difficult emotional experiences.
Effective psychotherapy is mental exercise
When getting in touch with feelings we have not allowed ourselves to feel in a long while it can feel like you are working out a new set of muscles. Tolerating difficult feelings is hard and while in therapy it also requires openness, honesty, and bravery to look at those parts of yourself as well as the others around you that may be hard to face directly. It requires being able to reflect, and experience deep within your skin the feelings that you may have packed away for some time. This generally happens when the pain is simply unbearable and you were not sure in the past what to do with it.
Let your intuition be your guide
I believe your intuition will guide you to where you need to do the work, when you need to do it and when you are ready to do it. I start each session by stating “start wherever you would like to” and then we go from there.
Trust your inner guide and be patient with your process
Trust your psyche’s pace. It will bring up things to your consciousness when it is ready to be shared and addressed. Ultimately, I believe that you’ve got what’s inside you to understand yourself. You just need help pulling it out. I’ll help you find it, and help you develop the tools you’ll need to continue the work throughout your personal process of finding resolution for your problems.
This is my general approach. Read further on the next tab about Depth Psychology to get an idea of how I ask questions to help you find the answers.